You know I'm not usually into linkage, but in order for you to follow me here, you're going to have to check these out....
This is the Hamburger Incident
This is the Shower Incident
This and This will forever be referred to as the Hurricane Ike Incident
This in another Shower Indecent
Yet another niece is getting married this summer. Her shower, of which I paid for a third of, and her gift, the largest on the registry, of which I paid for a third of has already come and gone.
So imagine my surprise to find out the week before last of the Bachelorette Party. The one at a rented beach house where every woman in the family, blood or marriage over the age of eighteen was invited to.
Except me.
Oddly, I knew of it because one of the nieces asked me to babysit so that she could go. Unfortunately, I'm unable to that weekend.
That being said, I've been pushed too far, and had a conversation with BS's Mom on Sunday evening about it. She was appreciative of my points, and understanding. I then asked her to share with anyone she felt would benefit from the statement that I was not to be asked to help host another shower, wedding, event. She was understanding of that.
The downside is that I feel badly for BS. He's always participated in the lives of his nieces and nephew. From driving to volleyball and swimming tournaments to helping them move to colleges. He was there for weddings, and provided support when they had their own children. In excluding me, they don't hurt me, I don't have any emotional interest invested into these people. They are hurting him.
The upside is that he's supportive of my decision and understands that I will no longer feel pressured to participate in any events with his family. If I want to attend something I will, If I don't, I will not. And I won't be remorseful.
We had a great conversation about all of this Sunday evening.
Last night I got an e-mail from the newest bride:
Hi (MINNIE)! I wanted to see if you would like to help serve the sangria at the wedding. I was hoping you would do that, and (Daisy) could serve the punch. What do you think?? Thanks! Niece 8
I literally cackled.
I haven't responded yet, but I'm asking for your suggestions...
Monday, May 18, 2009
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Okay, well now I’m just ticked. I had a quite lovely response all ready to send your way...then! Blogger or my computer, decided to crap out...so now, I'll simply offer the ever so wise words of wisdom, "screw 'em!" :) good luck...I’m sure your response will be perfect and most likely less profane then "screw 'em".
I would say you ought to make an example of someone to get your point across. If you don't want to then definitely don't do it. Especially if it's the same one that has already shown unappreciativeness (is that even a word? Screw it, I'm making it a word.) of your help and support.
I'd send an email saying something charming like, "and WHO are you again?"
Been there.... All I can say is that I would spend hours finding the perfect response to this...something like. "I wish I could, but I'm unable to comit at this time because work is incredibly busy and not sure I'll be able to be at the whole reception." Or "Maybe you have someone closer to you that you want to ask?", "Maybe your blood aunties are better suited for the task."...OR "Maybe you wanna ask one of the ladies who attended your bachelorette party."
The way I see it...it looks like she wants to "keep that Yankee Uppity Bitch in her place" by making you serve!
Being a fellow Texan with family just as crazy....
And being that I'm not as nice as you are ....
I'd tell her that you're as busy the day of the wedding as you were the day of the bachelorette party and that she should ask someone who was at the party for their help. And if that doesn't work - I like the screw them approach.
Nobody deserves to take the BS that you've taken from those witches.
Yeah, I'm with Amy on this one. Hands down!
Going with Amy's response on this one!
By all means....please let us know what snarky reply you give her.
Kelly
Don't respond at all.
Okay...I just sent you a comment but it didn't go through so I am going to try again...Here goes...hope it goes through.
I wouldn't even grace her with a response and if she calls or emails again you could just laugh (in a friendly sort of way) and say, "Oh, I thought you were kidding."
Love you,
Aunt Jo
Tell her to pop a punch ladle in that bowl and shut the hell up.
How about "No."
I'm loving Sister to Sister's response......
You know what I would tell her but I don't want to publish such language
maybe say oh, never got the email just like I didnt get the bach invite... go figure. :)Or maybe the person at the bach party that drank the most sangria would like to serve it... but really - I think the best would be to serve at the wedding and everytime you gave someone a glass I would tell them about the shower and not being invited to the bacht party!!!! LOL JUST KIDDING!!!
To be serious - I would tell her exactly how I felt about it...because you can bet she is going to do 1 of 2 things... not respond back to you in which case your not out anything OR she is going to have to say that you said no and why which will reveal her lack of thought in not inviting you and show people that she is possibly a 'situation user' - who are people that use others in the best of situations for their own benefit...
Gosh, sorry I hijacked your comments.... :) good luck
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